• Compassion,  Mindfulness,  Resilience

    The unsettled mind

    “The simplest, most fundamental, most basic, and most important meditative skill of all is the ability to settle the mind” (Chade-Meng Tan, 2016). Sometimes our daily lives are just too high stress, to competitive, too driven and sometimes life is just full of drama, and not in a good way. Regardless of age you will have experienced an unsettled mind and unsettled thoughts at some point in your life and so many of us are experiencing very unsettled thoughts at the moment.  There are times when settling your mind is a job of work and exceptionally difficult and other times when it takes just a moment to reset.  It is…

  • Compassion,  Resilience

    Self Compassion

    Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. (Dr. Kristen Neff, 2019) I have posted this content before but I am talking to so many people these days who are judging themselves very harshly at the moment. These difficult times are not the time to be hard on yourself. Take it easy. You do not have to learn a new skill or bake the perfect loaf. You need to do what it takes to be as comfortable as possible and as happy as possible considering your circumstances. Self-compassion is about being self-aware and…

  • Compassion,  Gratitude,  Happiness,  Hope

    Giving

    Hello there, today I wanted to talk a little bit about giving.  Some people say that there is no such thing as a truly altruistic act and to a certain degree I agree with this.  There is always a pleasure innate in giving something away.  I have always found that I get a great deal more in return. For me as I am sure many of you the ability to give money at the moment is difficult and so I would ask you to look at other ways to give.  Time is the most valuable resource that you have and so giving a little of your time to a friend…

  • Compassion,  Resilience

    Self Compassion

    Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. (Dr. Kristen Neff, 2019) Self-compassion is about being self-aware and taking time for yourself when things are not going well rather than trying to ignore your pain or telling yourself to “just get on with it”.  We all have things that we do not like about ourselves but we can be overly harsh in our criticism saying things to ourselves in our head that we would NEVER say to another person as they are too harsh. We all need to take a little time and…