• Happiness,  Positive Psychology,  Resilience

    Resilience

    There are many factors in building resilience. At the Happiness School we have created a number of courses to help individuals and companies (re)build their resilience. Developing resilience is a personal journey. People do not all react the same to traumatic and stressful life events. An approach to building resilience that works for one person might not work for another. People use varying strategies. We work to give you a number of strategies to chose from and help you to find the way to make them work for you in your busy life. Focusing on past experiences and sources of personal strength can help you learn about what strategies for…

  • Gratitude,  Happiness,  Meditation,  Positive Psychology

    What makes you happy?

    Do you start each day with a smile? What can you do to improve your day to day happiness? Research shows that you can work on improving your happiness in tangible ways that have real effects on your mood and overall level of happiness.  Some of these things are very easy, even silly to do, some are much more difficult but perhaps something that you can work towards. Let’s start with something very easy.  SMILE. That’s it, just smile.  I had a client who had real difficulty with this one and said that they had nothing to smile about. My suggestion was to look in the mirror every morning and…

  • Positive Psychology,  Values,  Wellbeing

    Values

    As we are beginning to see and end to the restrictions that we have all been under I thought it might be a good time to put this article on values up again. Sometimes a period of reflection can bring about great changes in our mindset sometimes it can just confirm what we already knew about who we are and what is important to us. Many of my clients are looking to the future right now and trying to decide what kind of a future they want for themselves. Do you want to go back to a long commute and working in the same place five days a week? Do…

  • Meditation,  Mindfulness,  Resilience,  Wellbeing

    Meditation

    Meditation has been around a long time but it can be misunderstood a lot of the time.  Meditation is a practice meaning you get better over time, with practice. Starting off can be confusing and distractions are everywhere.  In the beginning your mind wanders and you are very easily distracted but if you can stick with it and gently bring your thoughts back on track each time it gets easier and easier.  As you practice you will find that you improve a little each time and over time meditation can reduce stress, increase calmness, improve focus and promote wellbeing and happiness. The benefits are now being explored in more and…

  • Compassion,  Mindfulness,  Resilience

    The unsettled mind

    “The simplest, most fundamental, most basic, and most important meditative skill of all is the ability to settle the mind” (Chade-Meng Tan, 2016). Sometimes our daily lives are just too high stress, to competitive, too driven and sometimes life is just full of drama, and not in a good way. Regardless of age you will have experienced an unsettled mind and unsettled thoughts at some point in your life and so many of us are experiencing very unsettled thoughts at the moment.  There are times when settling your mind is a job of work and exceptionally difficult and other times when it takes just a moment to reset.  It is…

  • Gratitude,  Happiness,  Positive Psychology,  Resilience,  Self Determination,  Wellbeing

    Self Determination Theory

    At the moment we are all being forced into a situation that most of us would not chose, Isolation.  The lack of self determination we are currently feeling is adding to the stress and discomfort that we are feeling. My interest in Self Determination Theory (SDT) stems from the question of coercion and how that makes a difference to how motivated and involved you are to engage in something and to what the likely outcome will be namely do you engage, and encourage others to engage. SDT stems from an Arostoletian view of human development.  We are integrating Organisims with a coherent sense of self. This is a psychodynamic and…

  • Compassion,  Resilience

    Self Compassion

    Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. (Dr. Kristen Neff, 2019) I have posted this content before but I am talking to so many people these days who are judging themselves very harshly at the moment. These difficult times are not the time to be hard on yourself. Take it easy. You do not have to learn a new skill or bake the perfect loaf. You need to do what it takes to be as comfortable as possible and as happy as possible considering your circumstances. Self-compassion is about being self-aware and…

  • Compassion,  Gratitude,  Happiness,  Hope

    Giving

    Hello there, today I wanted to talk a little bit about giving.  Some people say that there is no such thing as a truly altruistic act and to a certain degree I agree with this.  There is always a pleasure innate in giving something away.  I have always found that I get a great deal more in return. For me as I am sure many of you the ability to give money at the moment is difficult and so I would ask you to look at other ways to give.  Time is the most valuable resource that you have and so giving a little of your time to a friend…

  • Habits,  Hope,  Positive Psychology,  Resilience

    Hope

    Hope can be a funny thing it is defined as a feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen, a feeling of trust or simply put when we want something to happen or be the case.  It can however be very elusive especially in times such as these when it feel like life is on hold and we are anxiously waiting for a reprieve.  It is however times like these when hope it most important. Hope allows us to be optimistically confident that there will be a positive outcome.  Being hopeful allows us to anticipate a return not just to normal but to a better version of…

  • Mindfulness,  Resilience

    Resilience in times of crises

    Resilience is important in our usual day to day world so in these changed times it is more important than ever. Any change is difficult but changes on the scale that Covid19 has brought are unprecedented in our times.  The more resilient that you are the easier you will find it to adapt to these new circumstances and therefore you will be better off in the long run.  Adaptability is the real key to survival (just ask Darwin). Being resilient however does NOT mean that you are not worried, uneasy, scared…it simply means that you can acknowledge these feelings and still be able to change yourself and your surroundings to…